From Complaining to Truth: Reframing the Vibration We Bring

I met up with a fellow Australian over lunch. It was comfortable, easy to speak words that were understood, without needing to edit myself. But then I heard myself complaining.

I caught it mid-sentence. I even apologized for my “Debbie Downer” rhetoric. Still, I left the lunch feeling the weight of what had surfaced.

It wasn’t just about the conversation—it was about me.

I realized how down I felt about the community I live in. The truth is, I don’t resonate with the status quo. Relating to the masses feels pedestrian at best, so I often choose to stay in my light rather than follow the herd. Yet after this encounter, a wave of emotional energy, charged, awkward, and undeniable, was flowing through me.

So I unpacked it.

I spoke to a dear friend back in Australia, and together we teased apart what was really going on. At first, I felt guilt and regret. I even remembered that two different people, over the past year, had said to me, “You come across as angry.”

That landed hard. Was I really angry? Or was I simply speaking my truth? The more I sat with it, the more I realized: when I feel safe with people, I allow my truth to come out. And yes, sometimes truth can sound like anger to those who aren’t ready to hear it.

The Weight of Not Fitting In

I live in a small desert town. Locals call it a “city,” but with 47,000 people, it’s really more of a bubble. Retirees, service workers, and a steady stream of tourists make up most of the population. It’s pretty, laid back, and great for recharging—but for someone like me, it doesn’t always feel like home.

My astrological cartography even shows my Mercury line running through this valley. I know I’m meant to be here, for now. To recharge, create, and use it as a base. But still, I caught myself complaining yesterday.

And here’s the truth I remembered: complaining is an emotional cancer.

When I complain, I leak energy. When I tell my truth, I expand energy. The two may look similar on the surface, but energetically, they are worlds apart.

Truth vs. Complaining

Truth challenges illusions. It disturbs comfort zones. It often gets misinterpreted as negativity because it doesn’t conform to “social niceties.” Complaining, on the other hand, drains both the speaker and the listener. It dwells on what’s wrong without offering a higher perspective or possibility. Yesterday, I caught myself leaning toward complaint instead of conscious truth-telling. And that awareness became a gift.

The Reframe

Here’s what I’m learning:

• Instead of: “I don’t fit in here” → I’ll reframe to: “I’m bringing something different into the space.”

• Instead of: “This is boring or mundane” → I’ll reframe to: “This is an invitation to stay grounded while holding my vibration.”

• Instead of: “People don’t get me” → I’ll reframe to: “I get to offer them a new frequency, without needing them to understand me.”

This is how we evolve...not by denying the shadow moments, but by reframing them into light.

The Profound Unwrapping

Every time we step deeper into our truth, there is an unwinding. A loosening of old stories. A release of bitterness we didn’t even know we were carrying.

This is the unwrapping of the gift of life: we discover that truth is never a burden, it’s an invitation. When we stop hiding it, even if it comes out messy or raw, the unwrapping begins.

We unwrap freedom.

We unwrap authenticity.

We unwrap the reminder that we are here not to blend in, but to illuminate.

And part of that illumination comes from becoming aware of what I call the “emotional cancers”, patterns like complaining, comparing, and contentment that quietly drain our energy when left unchecked.

When we dare to live from our truth, we discover that unwinding is not a setback but a sacred process, an unwrapping of life itself. Each layer we shed brings us closer to our authentic essence, to the freedom of being fully ourselves.

Along the way, we’re also called to notice the subtle “emotional cancers” like complaining, comparing, or contentment, that quietly drain our light. Awareness is the first step in releasing them. If you’d like to explore this further, I invite you to listen to my track on The 5 Emotional Cancers here: The 5 Emotional Cancers on SoundCloud

If you need guidance and support with your evolution, work with me. Your truth is awaiting.

In light!